I’m a complainer – so what.
So – a few years ago I decided to stop complaining and start praising.
Every time that something good occurred, I made the effort, (a real effort on my part, ’cause I’m basically either too busy or too lazy), to compliment someone on it. I even took to writing the company, the manager, the boss – whomever, to tell them of my experience and to give someone a pat on the back.
Well – that was futile!
I found that when I complained, I was rewarded and when I praised I got nothing!
Complaining got me coupons, a free drink, maybe a free meal. If I wrote to complain about a product, I’d get refund checks in the mail, recipes, calendars – all kinds of good stuff: once even a tee shirt.
But, when I praised someone or something, I’d be lucky to get a thanks, and I was never rewarded – nothing – nada – zip – zilch!
I’m not speaking of altruism here, but maybe just a reciprocal pat on the back for the one taking the time to thank someone or praise something, would be nice too.
I wonder if rewarding praise, with just a teeny-tiny material acknowledgement, would help change the culture of rudeness, self-centeredness, entitlement, self-absorption, self-aggrandizement, self-importance, selfishness – oh wait – now, we should be talkin’ altruism!
Kate-give it up; you’re right the first time – praise gets you zip…keep complaining and get prizes!
Are there no personal rewards in taking the high road?
Something is usually very wrong with the squeaky wheel. It is good to try to be a healthy wheel.
Kate Rawlins said:
Hey Kop – thanks for stopping by and check out my “cargo pants” post ~ https://kateswindow.com/2008/09/06/the-case-against-cargo-pants/